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Jakub’s Birth

I had the perfect birth plan.  But, nothing in it went as planned.

Saturday, 7/24/10, around 9pm. I started having mentrual-like cramps.  I didn’t really think much of it because there were no other signs.  At around 2am, I had the  ”bloody show.”  I was thinking to myself, labor could start any time now.

Sunday, 7/25/10. The menstrual-like cramps got more intense and seemed to follow a pattern.  They were coming every 7  mins apart.  The “bloody show” also increased.  It was hard to sleep.  As they have taught us in lamaze class and yoga, I breathed through each contraction which actually helped relieve it…even for a bit.

Monday, 7/26/10, 2am. The contractions grew more intense and were coming 5 to 7 mins apart.  I couldn’t sleep through the night.  When it seemed like the right time, I woke up Jiri, my husband, and asked him to bring me to the  hospital.  At 3am, we were at the labor and delivery examination area of Kaiser Permanente, Los Angeles Medical Center.    I was asked to wait in the examination room while the doctor was called in.  The doctor came in, asked about my contractions, placed me in a contraction monitor and did an internal exam.  The graph showed contractions coming in 7 mins apart, and I was only 1cm dilated.  Thus, I was sent home.  Diagnosis:  labor hasn’t started.  So much for the effort.

At 12pm,  my water bag broke.  I immediately called  Jiri and told him to bring me back to the hospital.  I was thinking: “This is it.”  The same routine was done and the doctor confirmed that my water bag did break and I was in early labor.  However, I was still 2cm dilated.  Irregardless, I was immediately wheeled into one of the birthing suites.  The contractions at this point were coming 3 to 5mins apart and were getting more and more intense by the minute.  Armed with all the techniques I learned from all those childbirth classes that we’ve attended, I tried to breathe through it all.  It seemed to help quite a bit, but due to the intensity, I felt like I could pass out.   Every 2-4 hours, a doctor would come in and do an internal exam to see how far dilated I was.  I remained at 2cm.

In what seemed like forever, I finally succumbed to the epidural at around 10pm that night.  The pain was just unbearable and the doctor told me they would put me in Pitocin to speed up the labor.  I still wasn’t dilating as much as I should.  Epidural is a wonder drug.  It made the contractions bearable and I was even able to catch a nap through it all.  At this point, I was fully hooked into monitors.  One to monitor the strength and intensity of my contractions and another to monitor Jakub’s heartrate.  I was also on IV, with a dose of pitocin and antibiotic.  It made movement very limited.  I felt like a cyborg.

Monday, 7/27/10. The next day came and I still wasn’t progressing very much.  A fetal and maternal doctor came and told me about my options.  Since I wasn’t dilating as much as I should, he told me they were going to infuse a synthetic version of my bag of waters.  The water supply was running low and it would not be good for the baby.  The contractions were also getting very very intense that even with the epidural, I was already starting to feel it.  I kept increasing the amount of epidural, and even got to the point of calling the anesthesiologist to increase the dose.  But to no avail.  It is what it is.  At approx 10am, the doctors came back to check on my progress.  Dilation was at 7cm, but contractions were still 5mins apart.  They did another internal exam and told me that the baby was not coming down to pelvic station 0.  He is still in pelvic station -2.  One of the reasons might be because he is facing upwards instead of downwards.  He told me that as a last resort, they were going to try to turn the baby face down and pull him to station 0.  At this point, I was ready to give up.  I told him I wanted a c-section.   He said that would be the last resort, but further convinced me that a vaginal birth is still the best option.  I conceded.

The plan was to do the turning in the operating room in case a c-section becomes inevitable.  After a few minutes, the nurse came back and gave Jiri his disposable scrub suit so he can be there with me during the whole procedure.  I was then transferred into a gurney and wheeled into the operating room.  The doctor came in, debriefed the team, Jiri and I about the procedure.  A nurse anesthesiologist and another surgical team was on standby in case a c-section was to be performed.  The procedure was painful.  Despite the full dose of epidural that I received, I still felt too much pressure which translated into pain.  I started to cry.  The turning was successful.  After 10 mins, the doctor declared that the baby was already face down, he is in 0 pelvic station, and I was already 10cm dilated.  At this point, he told me to start pushing.  Knowing that the end is near, I felt a sudden adrenaline surge and pushed with all my might.  It actually made the pain less intense.  But after 3 pushes, a heard beeping sounds and the sudden gush of people into the room.  I was turned from side to side and was given the oxygen mask.  I tried to protest.  I hate masks.  What’s going on?  The last thing I heard was the nurse anesthesiologist saying:  ”I’m going to knock her out now.”  Then everything went blank.  At 12:07pm,  Jakub Isagani Melichar came into this world.

I woke up shivering with Jiri by my side.  He told me they had to do an emergency c-section since Jakub’s heart rate dropped.  He further told me that everything was all right and the baby is safe.  At this point, everything was a blur.  All I could remember was my whole body shaking so bad from all the meds and hormonal changes that my system went through.  After a few hours when I awoke, they transferred me to the postpartum recovery room where Jiri and I stayed for the next 3 days.  Jakub was in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit and it was not until the second day when I got to see him.

False Alarm

When I heard about women being sent home for mistaking their Braxton Hicks contractions for real contractions, I told myself:  ”That is not going to be me.”  With all the reading, e-mails and childbirth classes that we have been attending, I thought I am already fully prepared.  Not to mention that I get tips here and there from friends who are mothers.

At 3am today, I woke up my husband begging him to bring me to the hospital.  Since Saturday, I have been having the “bloody show” and some contractions.  Based on literature, there are 3 telltale signs of pre-labor: 1. rupture of membranes (breaking of the water), 2.”bloody show”, and 3.  regular contractions that are less than 10mins apart.  If 2 out of three are fullfilled, off you go to hospitalville.  Since I’ve had 2, I thought this might be it.  Nevermind that I can still talk through my contractions.

When we got to the hospital, I was wheeled by an attendant through a wheelchair, with my husband in tow.  The signing in process was a breeze and my husband took care of the paperwork while I was asked to get a urine sample, get into a hospital gown and proceed to examination room three.  When I have settled down on the hospital bed, the nurse hooked me up into a couple of monitors:  one for my blood pressure, one to monitor the baby’s heartbeat, and another one to monitor the strength and frequency of my contractions.  The attending nurse named Olga, asked me a couple of questions.  After a few minutes, Dr. Mann, the OB on duty,came in to do an internal exam.  Afterwhich, she gave me the unfortunate news:  I am still not in labor.  I am only 1cm dilated, 50% effaced and Jakub is -2 engaged.  She told me to wait for a few minutes while they collect data from the baby which will eventually determine whether to send me home or keep me in the hospital.  She went on to see another patient.  After a few minutes, Dr. Callegari, her boss walked in and told me that they may have to send me home since it is still too early.   Dr. Mann came back and did the ultrasound to make sure that Jakub is doing fine and it was safe to send me home.  After everything checked in, they sent me home.

When they said that childbirth is painful, they were not kidding.  Those preliminary contractions that I’ve been feeling already hurts a lot.   How much more do real contractions?  I have just gained a new appreciation for all the mothers who have gone through this amazing journey.  As my husband and I were laughing about it on our way home, we came to appreciate our own mothers who had to go through this without the help of epidurals, ultrasounds or contraction monitors.  They knew and they made it.  There is no reason why I can’t.

My Birthplan

As my due date comes to a close, I have prepared this birthplan that I was going to give to the medical staff at the time when I’m admitted.  I’m having my fingers crossed hoping that everything will go as planned.

I know that my health and the baby’s health come first, and I trust in your expertise.  We would appreciate being kept informed of all procedures being offered to the baby and mom before and after delivery.

Following are our preferences if the situation allows:

LABOR-STAGE 1

Monitor If you believe it is necessary for the health of me or the baby, monitor continuously.  If

not, I would prefer to be monitored intermittently every hour, so that I can try walking

and sitting in the shower.

IV I already know that I am GBS positive, so I am prepared to be placed on IV for

antibiotics.  Please put the IV in a spot that will still allow me to move around.

Pain meds I would like to avoid pain medication if possible.  Please support me in my effort, and

offer pain management options only if I say: “I want Kluk.”

Positions Please feel free to offer different positions for labor if you know any that might help.

Other Please rupture my bag of waters if needed.  Also, please inform me of any interventions

you deem necessary, such as augmentation with pitocin, or internal monitoring.

DELIVERY – STAGE 2

Pushing When it is time to push, please encourage different positions such as side lying,

squatting with the bar, or sitting upright at the edge of the bed with the bottom

lowered.

Cord cutting If circumstances allow, I would like my husband to cut the cord, and then to have my

baby at my breast as soon as possible.

POST DELIVERY – STAGE 3

Nursing I would like to breastfeed my baby.  If possible, we’d like to avoid bottles and pacifiers.

Thank you for taking the time to read my birth plan – your care is very much appreciated.

An Afternoon with Old Friends

Yesterday I met up with my long-time friends Mya and Patrick.  The visit was unplanned for.  Since I am just staying home for maternity leave, I have all the time in the world to go on this unannounced meetups.  Their timing was actually perfect.  I thought I was going to rot at home enduring the summer heat.  When Mya called me up that morning saying that they’re in California, I was elated.  It has been a very long time since I’ve seen them.  We immediately scheduled to meet for lunch.  Afterwhich, we ended up shopping and strolling through the malls.  Later in the afternoon, my husband joined us.  It was a very good meeting and I was happy to see such familiar faces.  Even Jakub was very cooperative.  He never gave mommy any problems.  He is already a social animal.

Maternity Leave

Today is the official start of my maternity leave.  I am now 38 weeks pregnant, and in 2 weeks time, my bundle of joy should be arriving.  I still feel good.  Save for the heaviness in my belly, everything else seems to be ok.   I kinda miss work.  For someone who has always been working since she graduated, this is something different.  It would’ve been ok to work till the very end, but I really do not want to go through my early phases of labor at work.

Now I am using the time to prepare for everything else we needed for Jakub’s arrival.  I just finished the childbirth checklist to help us plan ahead for what’s to come.  I know every woman is different, but it helps to know the common signs to look out for.  When everything has been said and done, all I can really do is just wait.  Oh, I can’t wait to hold Jakub in my arms!

Czech the Flip Love Story: A Prelude to Jakub’s Arrival

Nesting

As we await the arrival of our son, my husband and I have been busy “nesting” these past 2 weeks.  Last week, we set-up his crib, his stroller, his car seat and washed his clothes.   This past weekend, we got and set-up last minute things like his bath tub, diaper depot, milk storage center and his mobile.    There was one item that was damaged so we went to Target to return it.  It was funny because while I was standing in the return line, I got into a small chit chat with another mom behind me who had a 2 year old.  I smiled and said hi to the boy.  His mom tried to guess the sex of my baby and when I told her it’s  a boy, she went on to tell me her experiences with her own son.  Eventually, she asked me how far along I was and I proceeded to tell her that I am already 9mos pregnant and ready to pop anytime soon.  There was a young guy in front of me and when he heard me say it, he literally looked back  at me, with an almost horrified look on his face.  It’s funny how some guys are terrified with the idea of a woman giving birth in their presence.

I am just glad that my husband and I went to all these childbirth classes and he has friends who’ve had babies.  At least I don’t have to find that kind of expression on his face.  The whole idea of “nesting” is also one way of getting accustomed of what’s to come.

Pre Labor Day Party

Here are the pictures from Jakub’s “Pre Labor Day” Party.

Jakub’s Daddy

I was supposed to write this entry during Father’s Day but got so absorbed with everything Jakub.

Jakub’s daddy loves him very much.  Every night, right after dinner, he rubs oil on my belly and talks to Jakub.  All throughout my pregnancy, he has been very supportive, understanding and loving towards me and his unborn son.  He is a stickler for rules.  There are times when his practicality irritates me, but in the end we always find a way to resolve our issues before the day is over.  Each and everyday, our love deepens as we await the arrival of our son.  I am so happy I am married to Jakub’s daddy.


36-32-34

No. It’s not my vital statistics, though it probably looks like it.  Today I turn 34, Jakub is 32 – weeks that is, and my husband Jiri is 36.    It is an important day for us today since we are doing our hospital tour.  The day when I was born is also the day when I will visit my baby’s birthplace.    I took a leave from work today.  I figured that this would be a good time for me to relax and prepare all the little details we would need for Jakub’s arrival.  I just registered Jiri and I for the baby CPR class and I also just contacted a public cord blood bank so we can donate Jakub’s cord blood.  If anything, his precious stem cells should be able to save somebody else’s life.

My day has just begun and so has Jakub’s.  I can already feel him kicking me now as if to say that we gotta go.  We’re on a roll.

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